I don’t consider myself to be a materialistic girl. I live by with what I need and on occasion “treat” myself with a toy or two. When people aak me what I want for possible gift ideas I usually don’t have an answer. This has often led me into a but of “trouble” so now I have adopted the simplistic gift idea. “soap”, “a coffee mug”, “books” and similar sorts. They tend to be items worth no more than fifty.

I try to keep things low-key. So when I have been logging in and notice your large expansive gallery if photographs of good eats and gifts from your so-called hubby I have a curious urge to view said photos, but at the same time feeling a little uneasy about it.

I am glad your “hubby” of seven months is so thoughtful and “loving”. I am glad he takes you out to all the fancy beautiful places and buys you gifts galore.

But is it all necessary? They once told me the importance of “a man who will give you many gifts” since it would be indicative of a man who is generous and will treat you well. I never quite subscribed to that thought very much because to me, having a man who constantly showers me with grand gifts is just trying to impress me and wasting money, especially if they were gifts that I would have little practical use of.

Granted it would be nice to have a man who would be thoughtful enough to get something for me for at least a birthday (from experience) since any man who promises to bring a gift and then offering excuse after excuse to get me anything warrants a bad record on the book.

But that is besides the point of this rant. A man who is constantly gifting, to me, is only showing off and trying to “win” me over, no matter what his real intentions are. The larger the gift the more absurd I think he is. Total turn-off.

So obviously we have a difference of opinion when it comes to evaluating the significant other. The showier he is, the more “suffocating” I feel.

There are people I know described above. I know that they are showering because they feel their recipient deserves such gifts or wants them to know just how much the recipient is loved. I call bull crap!

But I must be a harsh critic and possibly slightly hypocritical. I have been the victim of “spend any amount, it’s the thought and meaning of the gift that matters” and while that may mean I am modest with purchases, I can go overboard sometimes. But back to the topic of the recipient of the gifts (the girl):

He bought you what appears to be expensive and beautiful jewelry. It’s shiny and quite pretty.

I on the other hand am swarming a 15$ ring of iron that is plain and simple, and a newly acquired blue mother of pearl ring that supposedly changes color depending on your “mood”. Quite different class from your beautiful silver designer necklace.

But I am happy for my rings that I so proudly wear. One was a representation of the hard work and long studies of the past six years (and a reminder for the future years) and the second ring being a memento of an entire week of celebrations of my love (and the very hard work of some arcade action). To an outsider this item may seem childish and worth nearly nothing, but it summarizes my entire feelings better than something else might.

Oh, and I also got an xbox which was gifted after much discussion as opposed to a single idea that “this she might like”. Untraditional but my life I have been trying to break out of the norm anyway.

There are more ways to show and prove one’s love and perhaps they are worth more than just face value.

I feel quite spoiled sometimes with what you decide to spend on me. And this is by no means a comparison between you and a “better them”. In fact I feel lucky and blessed with a sensitive, caring, thoughtful and responsible man. What more can I ask for?

So for all the judges out there believing that I am just silly for my own good, I say forget you!